Like a lot of gay folks, we tend to bristle under the "tragic homosexual" label that so often gets hung on us. When we wrote this post we cut out a portion having to do with the "tragic messes" that can be found in most (actually, all) gay neighborhoods because we felt we were getting a little off-topic and yes, because we didn't want to contribute to the meme of all gay people laboring under some terrible burden.
But the fact of the matter is, a lot of gay people do bear that burden, whether because of society as a whole or their own personal issues or just plain bad luck in the family lottery. We'd be remiss if we pretended otherwise.
The part we excised from the previous post? When we first moved in together, we lived in a first floor apartment that looked out on one of those charming little colonial-era alleyways that dot Philadelphia. Across the way was a fun little cabaret-style piano bar frequented almost exclusively by older gay men. It was (and still is) a great place to go no matter your age or orientation. Like pretty much every single person we ever took there, you'd be surprised how many show tunes there are where you know all the words.
That year, we had family and friends over for Christmas dinner. All day long, we and our guests would look up and see someone far too drunk (and not in the happy way) miserably stumble out of the place. On Christmas day. We never forgot it.
Do us a favor, okay? Adopt a Mo this year. Look around you and check in with all your gays. Make sure they have somewhere to be on that day and if they don't, ask them to spend the holiday with you. Chances are, most of them will have plans because like we said, the "tragic homosexual" isn't as prevalent as our culture would have you believe but there's no denying that there are an awful lot of lonely 'mos around the holidays. Here's your chance to spread a little good karma around and honeys, trust us. You do a good deed for a lonely gay man and you will always have someone to tell you honestly whether those shoes match that dress. Alternately, help a lesbian out and you'll never have to pay for an oil change again.